So, that may explain my lack of involvement over here at GEN. Mostly because it takes a lot out of you to not only prepare physically for the baby, but it's mentally extraneous as well. There's a lot of things to think about when you're expecting. Frankly, writing about video games wasn't too high up on my list of priorities.
However, over the last 7 months, I've had a lot of time to re-group and be prepared for what's to come. I've come to terms with the fact that my gaming habits are now going to come second in my life. It doesn't change the fact that I'm still a gamer, and always will be. I'll just have to play those M rated games after bedtime... and monitor my trash talking. Muting the mic is no longer my trash-talk cure. I will now have to administer a little more self control. (CRAP!)
It's crazy how much being pregnant can alter your gaming habits. I know I'm not the first gamer to get pregnant, but gaming is also my social life. I have more people I consider close friends on my Xbox Live friends list then the people coming to my baby shower.
Because of this, I wanted to share with you ladies (and gents, of course) some of the turmoils of the prego-gamer. I've had quite a few ups and downs with gaming in the last 7 months. I was going to split this into 3 parts... One for each trimester... but after doing a little consideration for content, I decided to bundle the first two trimesters together.
The first trimester of my pregnancy was HORRIBLE. I say this because not only was I tired, hormonal, and having “morning” sickness (which was actually morning, afternoon, and evening sickness), but I had too much on my plate. I was trying to write for GEN, be the recruitment manager for the Halo 3 division of my clan, attending practices for said Halo 3 division, and working 40+ hours a week. All this while trying to cope with the fact that I'm going to be referred to as “Mommy” in just a few months.
The stress alone was making each clan practice, every match-made game, and every gaming magazine give me headaches. Then the motion sickness came, and this was the worst part! I love my games, and even if I'm not playing competitively, I still play them a lot. When it got to the point to where all my FPS games were making me sick, I had to give them a rest. Games like Guitar Hero and any third person perspective would also make me queasy. For almost the entire first trimester, I couldn't play anything but Uno and Sneak King. I had to step down as staff in my clan, and move from the Halo 3 division to a casual division until I could play again. In retrospect, I was entirly too tired to really consider playing every day anyway. The time away from my favorite games was hard though.
In my time away from actually playing games, I spent the energy usually poured into MY games to help other gamers around me. I actually wrote a whole essay on the history of First Person Shooters, just for fun. I helped my boyfriend with his World of Warcraft guild and gave my brother idea's for his Gears of War montages.
In the second trimester, life was much better. The motion and “morning” sickness had gone away and I was finally able to start picking up those games again. I had a TON of energy and those pregnancy hormones that were making me a monster had seemed to disappear. I was pretty much always in a good mood. That is until I started playing games again...
I'm the type of person who needs to play consistently to keep my skill up there. I am not one of those people, like my boyfriend, who was born with the ability to slay face on any game regardless of how much I had played it. It takes me a while to warm up before I start popping off head shots. That being said, I was getting extremely frustrated when I wasn't performing at my level. I would play Call of Duty 4 and end the game almost as far away from the top as you could get.
I didn't keep in mind that I haven't played any of these games in months. I didn't even know which ones of the maps were the new ones. All I knew was that I wasn't winning, and thats a hard blow to take after longing to play them for as long as I did. I guess pregnant women aren't the most rational people in the world. HA!
Slowly but surly I was able to get my skill back up there. My kill/death ratio is positive again, and I've even been attending more practices with my clan. The coolest thing about being active in my gaming communities again is all the awesome women I have to share my prego-fun with! When I'm playing with my girlfriends and mention that I feel the baby kick, the entire pregame lobby will burst into “Awww's” and the baby-talk starts. I've also got a few of my clan mates who are currently pregnant to share my fears and joys with. Something I really wish I was doing in the first trimester.
Now, here I am at the very beginning of the third trimester. I've heard this is the worst one, so I'll try to keep you guys updated on the whole thing. For now, I'm feeling good and playing a TON! In case you were wondering, its a GIRL! Although I'm not the only mom in the GEN staff here, she will be the first GEN baby! Aktrez even added maternity shirts at our cafe-press site that I will be taking full advantage of (and any other expecting gamer should as well! Prego-gamer shirts are difficult to come by!)
Also, if you or your wife, girlfriend, sister, or mom gamer is also expecting, feel free to send me a message! Us preggers need to stick together in times like these, and I'd love to play with more! Yay for prego-gamers and yay for baby shoes! <3